QUIZ
Is Your Relationship Consuming
You?
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Is your relationship consuming you? Take this quiz.
1 You’re hanging out with your friends and having
a good time, when your boyfriend/girlfriend (bf/gf) calls and
says they want to see you. Do you…
a. Tell your bf/gf you’re out with your friends and will
talk to him or her later?
b. Stay with your friends but wish all evening you could go see
him or her instead?
c. Tell him or her to give you an hour and you'll be on your way?
d. Drop everything and leave?
e. Friends? I don’t have any friends since I started going
out with this guy (or girl)?
2. Do you feel perfectly confident going stag to any
event?
a. Sure! I’d go stag anytime.
b. Probably. It depends on what the event is but I’d be
up for it.
c. Only if someone I know is going stag too.
d. Are you kidding? Never!
e. Stag? Isn’t that like something you shoot at?
3. A movie you've wanted to see just came out and your
friends ask you to go with them since your bf/gf is busy. Do you…
a. Go and have a great time?
b. Ask your bf/gf if they mind if you go without him or her?
c. Go but don't tell him or her and pretend you've never seen
it?
d. Decline—you want to see it with your bf/gf first?
e. Hunt down bf/gf and make him or her go with you anyway that
night?
4. When you’re spending time with friends or family
without your bf/gf, do you…
a. Have a good time without really thinking about him or her?
b. Frequently check your cell phone for messages from him or her?
c. Feel very distracted wondering about your bf/gf and sneak away
to call him or her?
d. Ask friends and family if your bf/gf can hang out with you
so you don’t have to be apart?
e. “Go somewhere without my bf/gf? We are practically Siamese
twins!”
5. Your close friend truthfully points out an unhealthy
aspect of your relationship that he (or she) has noticed and you…
a. Listen objectively. You know your friend loves you, wants the
best for you, and very well may see something you don’t.
b. Change the subject. If you want advice you’ll ask for
it.
c. Question their motives. They are obviously jealous of your
relationship.
d. Get upset and stop talking to them.
e. Plug your ears and start singing.
6. Your youth pastor has been challenging your thoughts
and actions in your dating relationship and also encouraging you
to pray about God’s will for your relationship. Do you…
a. Pray and ask God for guidance because you don't want to be
out of his will even if it means giving up your bf/gf?
b. Pray that God will keep your relationship together?
c. Believe that you don’t need to pray about it—your
love and devotion will conquer all.
d. Feel uncomfortable and try to ignore his statements?
e. Take up a knitting class on youth group night just so you don’t
have to attend?
7. For Holidays and birthdays, you expect your bf/gf
to:
a. I don’t expect anything.
b. A card would be a nice gesture to know they care.
c. I’d be hurt if they didn’t get me something.
d. They had better do something really creative and special that
they haven’t done for anyone else.
e. Expressing their undying love for me from a helicopter ride
over the Eiffel Tower at sunset works for me.
8. You’re in a difficult relationship and know
you are settling for someone who isn’t right for you. Do
you…
a. Break it off right away and use the time to get closer to God?
b. Ask your parents, youth pastor, or friends for prayer or advice
to help you decide what to do?
b. Have a difficult time disconnecting emotionally or physically
from this person?
c. Stick it out because you don't want to be alone.
d. Become a nun/priest.
9. Your Parents disapprove of the person you’re
dating so you…
a. Talk it over with them and willingly listen to their opinion.
b. Hope and pray their opinion will change over time.
c. Sneak around to try to keep the relationship going.
d. Don't care what they think because you’re in love and
nobody but you is going to decide who’s right for you.
e. Adopt new parents who like everything you do (you had to find
them on the Internet).
If you answered mostly a's and b's
You are on the right track and are capable of having a relationship
without allowing it to consume your life or to conflict with your
relationship to God. You are making good choices to include God
in your plans and it appears that you have a desire to wait for
His best. You have healthy relationships with those you love and
you realize that they love you and want the best for you. Continue
to stay teachable and intent upon God’s will in your life
and you will have an awesome marriage someday.
If you answered mostly c's:
You have some insecurities that need attention. You are putting
too much hope in relationships for meaning in life. If you don’t
deal with this area of your life, you are going to have a difficult
time with unhealthy relationships and destructive patterns. Right
now, your own desires are more important that what God wants for
you, and this will lead you down a path of emptiness and loneliness
in relationships. What can you do? Ask your parents or youth pastor
for steps you can take to grow closer to God through a daily relationship
with Him, so that you will discover His satisfying love that will
give you great security without a relationship. Also, begin reading
books about developing and recognizing godly relationships. This
will not only strengthen your faith in what God wants to do in
your life, it will give you healthy understanding and insight
into God-centered relationships which are never disappointing.
If you answered mostly d's:
Your obsession for relationships, especially unhealthy ones, has
taken precedence over everything else in your life. You have very
little room for family and friends, the most important earthly
relationships God has placed in your life. Most importantly, God
has taken a back seat in your life. You think you have all the
answers, and any constructive criticism from people who truly
want what’s best for you only bristles up your unteachable
spirit. You are run by emotions and self-centered interests, believing
that what you want is more important than what God wants for your
life. This lie you believe is straight from Satan and it could
destroy the potential for any meaningful relationships in your
life. In order to have any satisfying, healthy relationships in
the future, you must take drastic measures to get your relationship
with God back on track. Visit with your youth pastor, a Christian
counselor, or a committed believer you know who can help steer
you in the right direction before you end up in a disastrous relationship
and a shattered life.
If you answered any e’s:
Better take the quiz again and this time be serious!
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