MARRIAGE
12 Ways to Keep Your Love Alive
Smalley Relationship Center
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Dr. Gary Smalley has 12 tips that will help you keep the intimacy alive in your marriage. Here they are:
1. Praise is such a great gift, and it's so easy to give.
So look at the things that make your spouse and others unique
and develop the habit of praising them for those special things.
2. Every painful trial is like an oyster, and there is a precious
pearl—a personal benefit—in every one; every single
one.
3. Don't go it alone. Welcome fresh insights of other perspectives—from
extended family, friends, good marriage books, or a qualified
marriage counselor.
4. In a mutually satisfying relationship, both people's needs
are expressed, and they have the flexibility to give and take.
5. Honor goes hand in glove with love, a verb whose very definition
is doing worthwhile things for someone who is valuable to us.
6. All our trials, great and small, can bring more of the two
best things in life: love for life and love for others.
7. Oneness does not mean that one mate dominates the other or
that the stronger controls the weaker.
8. Anger is our choice. We can choose to see its powerful potential
for destruction and take steps to reduce it within us. Otherwise,
it's and iceberg sinking our love.
9. Better understanding of the motivations and actions that grow
out of our basic personalities can help us achieve personal and
marital satisfaction.
10. Sharing deep feelings with each other is emotional intercourse,
and it's vital to sexual satisfaction.
11. As we reach out to another, our own needs for fulfillment
and love are met.
12. Give seven or more praises for every one fault-finding suggestion.
For more ideas about keeping your love alive, check out Dr. Gary
Smalley's book The
DNA of Relationships.
© Copyright 2005 Smalley
Relationship Center. Used by permission.
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